THIS WEEK ON TO THE CONTRARY: FIRST, WHY MANY WOMEN ARE STARTING TO OPPOSE GUN CONTROL.

THEN, THE PROBLEM WITH WORKPLACE DIVERSITY POLICIES.

BEHIND THE HEADLINES: LEARNING TO FORGIVE EVEN THE MOST OUTRAGEOUS CRIMINALS.

[♪♪♪] HELLO, I'M BONNIE ERBE.

WELCOME TO TO THE CONTRARY, A DISCUSSION OF NEWS AND SOCIAL TRENDS FROM DIVERSE PERSPECTIVES.

UP FIRST, GUN CONTROL.

WOMEN HAVE BEEN THE CORE SUPPORT FOR GUN CONTROL LAWS FOR INDICATEDS S THAT CHANGING?

ACCORDING TO A NATIONAL SHOOTING SPORTS FOUNDATION SURVEY, MORE THAN ONE-THIRD OF WOMEN WHO OWN GUNS BOUGHT THEIR FIRST RECENTLY.

THE NATIONAL RIFLE ASSOCIATION REPORTS THE NUMBER OF WOMEN WHO OWNED FIREARMS ROSE BY 80% BETWEEN 2004 AND 2011.

AS WOMEN'S GUN OWNERSHIP RISESES POLLS SHOW THEY OPPOSE GUN CONTROL AT HIGHER LEVELS THE CHANGE COMES BECAUSE THE ISSUE LOST VISIBILITY IN THE MEDIA.

SO CONGRESSWOMAN NORTON WHAT IS PROPROPELLING THE CHANGE?

>> UNLESS THEY WILL BE FAST ON THE DRAW AGAINST THE DOMESTIC ABUSERS I AM NOT SURE IT'S GOING TO HELP WOMEN.

THEY ARE FIVE TIMES MORE LIKELY TO DIE WITH GUNS IN THE HOME.

>> I'M NOT IS YOUR PRIORITIESED WOMEN ARE RESTAURANTS, SUPREME COURT JUSTICES SURGEONS WHY NOT BE ABLE TO DEFEND YOURSELF.

>> I AM AT A LOSS FOR WORDS ON THIS ONE WHICH IS UNUSUAL FOR ME AS WE KNOW.

I THINK IF WE LOOK AT POLITICAL INFORMATION WOMEN ARE CONCERNED ABOUT SAFETY AND SECURITY I SUSPECT THAT IS WHAT IS UNDERNEATH THIS.

>> I THINK GUN OWNERSHIP IS CONTINUING TO INCREASE BECAUSE OF THE SLIPPERY SLOPE THAT WOMEN AND MEMBERS OF THE GUN LOBBY FEEL ABOUT WITH RESPECT TO PRESIDENT OBAMA'S EFFORT TO CURTAIL THEIR SECOND AMENDMENT RIGHTS.

>> BUT FIRST OF ALL, WE SHOULD MENTION THAT THERE HAS BEEN A DEBITOR OF DATA BECAUSE REPUBLICANS AND CONGRESS MADE IT IMPOSSIBLE FOR THE CENTERS FOR DISEASE CONTROL TO COLLECT DATA ON GUN OWNERSHIP BUT WHEN THERE WAS A LOT OUT THERE IT WAS MORE COMMONLY KNOWN THAT THE USE OF A FIREARM, THE KEEPING OF A FIREARM IN THE HOUSE WAS MUCH MORE LIKELY TO RESULT IN A HOMICIDE AS WE SAW WITH ADAM LANCELANZA OR SUICIDE.

>> 60% OF THE GUNS IN THE HOME GO FOR SUICIDES.

DOMESTIC ABUSE -- THERE ARE ONLY I THINK ABOUT 10 STATES THAT SAY IF YOU HAVE BEEN FOUND GUILTY OF DOMESTIC ABUSE YOU CANNOT HAVE A GUN.

THAT MEANS IN MOST STATES YOU CAN HAVE A GUN EVEN AFTER DOMESTIC ABUSE.

I SUSPECT WOMEN BECAUSE THEY DO NOT KNOW THE THINGS THIS PROGRAM IS ABOUT, I SUSPECT THEY WILL BE DEFENDING THEMSELVES.

THEY LIVE IN HOMES INCREASINGLY WHERE MEN HAVE GUNS.

AND IF EVERYBODY AROUND YOU HAS A GUN, THEN YOU WANT A GUN AND LOOK AT THE CIRCLE YOU WILL END UP SHOOTING AT YOUR NEIGHBOR OR SOMEONE FRIENDLY NOT AT SOME INTRUDER WHO YOU WOULD HAVE TO GET A FAST DRAW ON TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT.

>> I THINK WE CAN DISAGREE WITH WHE >> FORGET ABOUT PARIS AND SAN BERNADINO TALK ABOUT COLUMBINE THE LOCAL CRAZIES WHO GET GUNS OF MASS DESTRUCTION AND GO INTO A MOVIE THEATER AND KILL PEOPLE.

>> I THINK A LOT OF WOMEN AND PERHAPS I WOULD BE INTERESTED TO SEE THE NUMBERS I WONDER IF IT'S HIGHER AMONG MOTHERS TO PROTECT THEIR FAMILIES.

>> IT IS VERY INTERESTING TO ME.

IT'S HIGHER AMONG SOUTHERNERS.

SO WE ARE TALKING BIBLE BELT.

WE'RE PROBABLY TALKING LARGE SECTIONS OF THE LEAST EDUCATED PART OF THE COUNTRY.

AND IT'S WAY HIGHER AMONG REPUBLICANS THAN DEMOCRATS.

IN FACT IF YOU GO DOWN THE LIST OF ALL THE THINGS THAT GALLOP SORTED BY GENDER AND REGION BY RACE ET CETERA, PERSONS OF COLOR AND DEMOCRATS ARE THE ONLY ONES WHO STILL THINK IT'S SAFER NOT TO HAVE A WEAPON IN YOUR HOUSE.

EXPLAIN THAT.

>> YOU TALKED ABOUT MOTHERHOOD AND THE STATISTICS AROUND WHAT HAPPENS TO CHILDREN WHEN THERE IS A GUN IN THE HOME IS THE MOST TURNING STATISTICS THAT EXIST.

AND SO I THINK TO YOUR POINT, CONGRESSWOMAN, THERE IS A DIRETH OF INFORMATION AND REMINDER.

WOULD WE BEWARING SEATBELTS IF THERE WAS NOT THE CAMPAIGN ABOUT THE SAFETY ISSUES.

>> FORGET THAT THE CHIME THAT GOES OFF IN YOUR CAR.

BUT IF YOU DO NOT PUT THE SEATBELT ON.

>> I'M OLD ENOUGH TO REMEMBER WHEN THEY WERE NOT MANDATORY.

CONGRESSWOMAN HIT THE NAIL ON THE HEAD THIS A DIRTTH OF INFORMATION WHEN I HAVE A REPUBLICAN YOUNG WOMAN MOTHER SAYING SHE IS GOING TO GET A GUN TO PROTECT HERSELF TO PROTECT HERSELF WHEN SHE IS OUT JOGGING I KNOW WE HAVE A PROBLEM.

IF YOU PUT THAT GUN IN YOUR HOME DO YOU KNOW THE CHANCES ARE THAT YOUR CHILD WILL FIND THE GUN AND SHOOT THEMSELVES?

>> AND THERE'S TECHNOLOGY TO KEEP PEOPLE SAFE.

>> AND THE STATISTICS SPEAK FOR THEMSELVES WHEN IT HAPPENS TO CHILDREN WHEN THERE IS A GUN IN THE HOME.

>> WE MAY BE MORE PRODUCTIVE IN OUR CONVERSATION IT'S CLEAR THAT GUN OWNERSHIP IS GOING UP.

IF WE WANT TO KEEP PEOPLE SAFE WE ARE BETTER OFF TALKING ABOUT THE TECHNOLOGY TO KEEP THEM SAFE.

>> DOESN'T THE NRA OPPOSE IF YOU HAVE TO PUNCH IN A CODE OR IF YOU HAVE TO DO YOUR FINGERPRINT OR HOWEVER YOU NEED TO GIVE A BIOMARKER FOR THE GUN TO START WORKING THE NRA IS OPPOSED TO HAVING THOSE THINGS BECAUSE IT MAKES IT A LITTLE LESS QUICK THAT YOU GET ACCESS TO THE GUN?

>> I DON'T KNOW THE OFFICIAL NRA STATEMENT BUT I KNOW PEOPLE WITH GUNS WHO BELIEVE IN SECURELY KEEPING GUNS IN A HOME.

SO I DO THINK THAT IT'S CLEAR THAT WE HAVE A CULTURE IN AMERICA WHERE PEOPLE WANT THEIR SECOND AMENDMENT RIGHT AND IT MIGHT BE MORE PRODUCTIVE TO FIGURE OUT HOW TO KEEP PEOPLE SAFE RATHER THAN TAKE THEM AWAY.

>> I AGREE.

A BIG PART WOMEN OR PEOPLE WHO ARE GUN OWNERS YOU ARE SEE THE NUMBER INCREASE OVER THE PAST COUPLE OF YEARS BECAUSE OF THINGS OF SANDY HOOK AND PEOPLE SEE THE GROUND SWELL OF CONGRESSIONAL AND LEGISLATIVE AND THE EXECUTIVE ACTION TAKING PLACE A CONCERN THEIR SECOND AMENDMENT RIGHTS COULD BE ERODED BECAUSE OF THAT THEY ARE BUYING GUNS.

WHETHER OR NOT THEY ARE KEEPING THEM IN THE HOME OR USING THEM TO PROTECT FAMILIES OR CHILDREN REMAINS TO BE SEEN.

MY BIGGER QUESTION IS WHAT YOU FIND IS THAT WE HAVE TO BE TALKING ABOUT WHAT THE REAL SOLUTION IS.

ARE WE TRYING TO ADDRESS A PROBLEM OF MASS SHOOTINGS OR GUN OWNERSHIP.

DOES OUR COUNTRY HAVE TOO MANY GUNS.

IS THAT WHAT THE GOAL OF POLICIES?

IS THAT MENTAL HEALTH FUNDING.

WHAT ARE WE TRYING TO DO TO ADDRESS THE PROBLEM.

>> CAN WE HAVE GENERAL INFORMATION OUT THERE ABOUT WHAT HAPPENS WHEN GUNS ARE AROUND.

AND THAT IS WHAT THE CONGRESSWOMAN IS TALKING ABOUT.

THE IT'S THE MOST FUNDAMENTAL ISSUE.

>> BUT WILL THAT CHANGE.

>> WHAT YOU DO NOT KNOW IS HURTING YOU.

AND THE GOVERNMENT WILL NOT DO IT BECAUSE THE GOVERNMENT IS BLOCKED BY THE NRA FROM DOING IT BUT THERE ARE FOUNDATIONS WHO COULD BE HELPFUL BECAUSE NOBODY WILL KEEP THEM FROM GETTING THE INFORMATION OUT THERE AND THEY NEED TO DO IT AND FAST.

OTHERWISE, THIS GUN THING IS NOW A VICIOUS CIRCLE AND OUT OF OUR CONTROL.

>> THAT IS THE QUESTION I HAVE, TOO.

WHICH IS WITH MORE GUNS AND WEAPONS THAN PEOPLE IN THIS COUNTRY CIRCULATING, GUN CONTROL BECOMES MEANINGLESS DOESN'T IT?

YOU CAN PASS A LAW IT DOESN'T MEAN THERE ARE SO MANY OUT THERE NOW.

>> NOT IF YOU TALK ABOUT BACKGROUND CHECKS.

NOW WE HAVE 90% OF -- REPUBLICANS 88%, DEMOCRATS ARE MORE THAN THAT, WHO SAY WE WANT AT LEAST BACKGROUND CHECKS ON PEOPLE BEFORE THEY OWN A GUN.

>> RIGHT.

>> GET THAT THROUGH THE CONGRESS OF THE UNITED STATES.

>> HOW MANY OF THESE GUNS WITH OR WITHOUT BACKGROUND CHECKS THAT ARE USED FOR MASS SHOOTINGS -- HOW MANY -- I DON'T KNOW THE ANSWER TO THIS QUESTION -- MAYBE THERE IS AN ANSWER OUT THERE -- WHAT PERCENTAGE OF THE GUNS USED BY THE GUY FROM COLORADO SHOT UP THE PLAID CLINIC AND THE SAN BERNADINO ARE BOUGHT PURCHASED ILLEGALLY?

MEANING THAT THERE WOULD BE WEAPONS OUT THERE ON THE BLACK MARKET SO MANY OF THEM THAT IT REALLY WOULDN'T MATTER WHAT KIND OF LAWS PASSED.

>> THEY HAVE SHOWN THAT SOMETHING LIKE TWO OR THREE MILLION PEOPLE HAVE BEEN KEPT FROM BUYING GUNS JUST BECAUSE THERE ARE SOME BACKGROUND CHECKS OUT THERE.

AND LOOK, HERE IS THE PRESIDENT IS RIGHT SAYING I'M NOT SAYING YOU ARE GOING TO SOLVE THIS PROBLEM.

WE UNDERSTAND HOW MANY GUNS ARE OUT THERE.

BUT IF YOU REIGN THIS PROBLEM IN YOU ARE DOING SOMETHING.

WE SHOULD NOT BE THROWING OUT OUR HANDS OUT AND SAYING IT'S OUT OF CONTROL AND THERE IS NOTHING WE CAN DO ABOUT IT.

>> I AGREE WITH YOU.

I THINK ONE OF THE THINGS WE ALL CAN DO BETTER IS IDENTIFY WHEN SOMETHING DOESN'T SEEM RIGHT AND THAT IS THE COMMON THREAD WITH THE MASS SHOOTINGS WHEN SOMETHING IS NOT RIGHT AND PEOPLE ARE NOT SPEAKING UP.

WHY?

MAYBE A HUMAN INSTINCT NOT TO POINT FINGERS AT SOMEBODY BUT IN THE CASE OF THE SAN BERNADINO PARIS ATTACK OR SANDY HOOK, BOTH CASES, PEOPLE FELT THAT SOMETHING WAS WRONG AND THEY DID NOT SAY ANYTHING.

>> WELL, IF YOU SEE SOMETHING SAY SOMETHING.

WHETHER PEOPLE ARE DOING THAT.

MORE PEOPLE SHOULD.

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FROM GUNS TO DIVERSITY.

>> MOST LARGE AMERICAN COMPANIES SETUP DIVERSITY PROGRAMS AND POLICIES TO COMMON AUTO BAT BIAS IN THE WORKPLACE.

RESEARCH PUBLISHED SUGGEST THE PROGRAMS DO NOT AND MIGHT BE COUNTERPRODUCTIVE.

RESEARCHERS REPORT THE MOST COMMONLY USED DIVERSITY PROGRAMS DID NOT RESULT IN AN INCREASE OF WOMEN AND MINORITIES IN MORE HIGH LEVEL CORPORATE JOBS.

IN FACT, ONE STUDY OF 700 AMERICAN COMPANIES FOUND A DECREASE IN THE REPRESENTATION OF BLACK WOMEN USING HIRING SIMULATIONS, RESEARCHERS FOUND WHITE MEN WHO APPLIED FOR JOBS WITH COMPANIES THAT PROMOTE HER ANTIDISCRIMINATION POLICIES BELIEVED THEY WOULD BE TREATED UNFAIRLY AND BE LESS VALUED.

RESEARCHERS NOTE COMPANIES SUCCEED IN DEFENDING GENDER DISCRIMINATION ALLEGATIONS BY POINTING TO THEIR ANTIDISCRIMINATION POLICIES.

>> SO, SABRINA, ARE THE CORPORATE DIVERSITY POLICIES A ROUSE TO CONTINUE TO GET AWAY WITH DISCRIMINATION BUT DISCRIMINATE IN TERMS OF HIRING AND PROMOTION AND WAVE THE POLICY IN THE FACE OF A COURTROOM SHOULD THEY BE SUED?

>> LOOK THIS HAS GONE AWRY.

PERHAPS THE INTENTIONS THEY WANT TO SHOW THEY HAVE A DIVERSE EMPLOYEE POPULATION AND THEY ARE SOCIALLY RESPONSIBLE SO IT MAY NOT ALL BE GENUINE BUT THE PREMISE IS THAT ALL EMPLOYERS ARE BAD AND NO EMPLOYERS WANT DIVERSITY OR BRINGING WOMEN AND MINORITIES ON TO THE STAFF AND THAT IS SORT OF MISLEADING.

MOST PEOPLE RECOGNIZE THAT AFRICAN-AMERICANS, LATINOS, WOMEN BRING SOMETHING IMPORTANT TO THE TABLE AND TO THE EXTENT IT WORKS FOR THE BUSINESS MODEL THEY WANT THAT DIVERSITY WITHOUT GOVERNMENT AND A POLICY IN PLACE.

>> I AGREE WITH YOU 100%.

I THINK THIS IS A SITUATION WHERE WITH THE BEST OF INTENTIONS CORPORATIONS PUT THEM IN.

HAVE THEY BEEN DRIVEN BY LIABILITY CONCERNS?

YES.

A LOT OF GOOD INTENTIONS BUT UNDERNEATH THERE HAS TO BE MORE PRACTICES THAT ALLOW PEOPLE TO BRING IN MORE DIVERSITY.

AND THAT IS -- WE ARE NOT THERE YET.

>> AND THE LIABILITY CONCERN.

PLEASE DO NOT TAKE THE WAL-MART CASE A CASE WHERE THEY HELD UP THE FACT THAT THEY HAD A BROAD POLICY.

IT WAS BECAUSE THE CASE WAS TOO BROAD.

EVERY WOMEN HAD SUED.

AND WHEN -- IT'S VERY HARD TO HAVE A CLASS ACTION THAT IS WHAT IT WAS.

I CHAIRED THE EQUAL EMPLOYMENT OPPORTUNITY COMMISSION AND I WILL CONCEDE SOME IS ABOUT LIABILITY.

BUT I DO AGREE WITH YOU, SABRINA, I THINK THEY THOUGHT IT WAS A GOOD THING TO DO.

HERE IS WHY RESEARCH IS SO IMPORTANT.

WE TALKED ABOUT RESEARCH ON GUNS.

HERE IS WHERE WE NOW GET FEEDBACK.

AND THE NEGATIVE EFFECT IT HAS ON WHITE MEN THAT WAS SHOCKING TO ME.

THEY WOULD NEVER SAY THAT.

WHY IN THE WORLD HAS IT OR DID IT RESULT IN HIRING FEWER BLACK WOMEN?

NOW WE NEED TO UNDERSTAND WHAT IS THE TRUE MEANING OF THESE FACTS AND FIGURES THAT WE KNOW FOR THE FIRST TIME AND ARE CONTRAINDICATED.

>> I THINK THE VAST MAJORITY OF THE 100 COMPANIES HAVE THESE POLICIES IN PLACE.

>> AND WHAT THE PUBLIC DOESN'T KNOW AND WHAT I WANT TO POINT OUT TO VIEWERS THERE IS AN INDUSTRY AROUND DIVERSITY AND INCLUSION IN THE CORPORATE WORLD.

THERE ARE HUGE CONFERENCES, MILLIONS OF DOLLARS ARE SPENT PROMOTING HERE IS OUR AFRICAN-AMERICAN OR LATINA WHO HEADS OUR DIVERSITY DIVISION AND HERE ARE OUR POLICIES.

AND YET YOU LOOK YOU SEE WOMEN IN HR AND WOMEN IN PUBLIC RELATIONS YOU DO NOT SEE WOMEN IN BOTTOM LINE JOBS AND YOU DO NOT SEE MINORITIES IN BOTTOM LINE JOBS.

AND I HAVE GONE TO THE EVENTS.

AND IT'S JUST AN INCREDIBLE AMOUNT OF SHOWING OFF.

AND I FEEL VERY SAD SEEING THIS HARVARD BUSINESS REVIEW ARTICLE SAYING THAT HEY, WAIT A MINUTE, IT'S ALSO NOT HAVING THE DESIRED RESULT.

>> RIGHT.

AND WE ARE SEEING THAT SOME COMPANIES TAKE IT MORE SERIOUSLY THAN OTHERS.

SOME COMPANIES HAVE RESPECT TO SENIOR MANAGEMENT SUPPORTING THESE PROGRAMS.

I THINK LARGELY THEY ARE MISUNDERSTOOD AND WHAT YOU FIND SOMETHING THAT THE PROGRAMS ARE RESPONDING TO THE CHANGING DEMOGRAPHICS THAT A LOT OF COMPANIES ARE FACING.

THEY HAVE TO ADAPT AND LOOK AT WHAT SABRINA WAS TALKING ABOUT WITH RESPECT TO WOMEN AND MINORITIES AND PEOPLE OF DIFFERENT FAITHS AND CULTURES BECAUSE THEY ARE TRYING TO SELL A PRODUCT AND REPRESENT A CONSTITUENCY AND TO BE EFFECTIVE THEY HAVE TO FIND A WAY TO ADAPT.

>> YOU THINK ABOUT IT.

IT IS A MARKET-CRAZED SOCIETY.

PUT AN AD UP THAT WILL SOLVE YOUR PROBLEM.

THERE IS AN ANSWER TO THIS.

THE C.E.O.

HAS TO GET BEYOND THE AD.

HE HAS TO GET PEOPLE WHO GO OUT AND DO THE JOB.

FOR EXAMPLE, YOU WANT TO HIRE BLACKS?

SEND PEOPLE TO RECRUIT AT HISTORICALLY BLACK COLLEGES AND UNIVERSITIES.

HOWARD UNIVERSITY HERE IN DC.

SEND THEM TO THE IVY LEAGUE AND SAY DON'T JUST GIVE ME YOUR WHITE STUDENTS SURELY YOU HAVE WOMEN AND MINORITIES THAT I OUGHT TO BE TALKING TO.

THIS IS ACTION OVER ADS AND I BELIEVE THAT IS THE LESSON OF THE ADVERTISING APPROACH TO DIVERSITY.

>> I'VE HAD THE PLEASURE OF WORKING WITH TWO ONE WAS A C.E.O.

OF THE LARGEST COMMERCIAL REAL ESTATE FIRM IN THE WORLD AND I WORKED WITH HIM CLOSELY.

AND ANOTHER MAN BILL LEVINS THE COO OF ONE OF THE LARGE UTILITY COMPANIES THAT SERVICES NEW YORK CITY.

THESE MEN WERE DEDICATED TO WHAT THE CONGRESSWOMAN IS TALKING ABOUT AND IT'S WHAT IT TAKES.

IT TAKES BOTTOM UP INSIDE AND TOP DOWN.

>> AND WE AN WANT TO ALLOW BUSINESSES TO HAVE THE FREEDOM AND THE FLEXIBILITY TO HIRE THE PEOPLE THAT MAKE SENSE FOR THEIR COMPANY.

THE REALITY IS, THERE'S NEVER MUCH OF A GREAT SCIENCE I DID NOT LOVE IT AS MUCH AS SOME OF THE OTHER PEOPLE I KNEW.

BUT I PROBABLY WOULD BE TABLE CODER.

PERHAPS MY DAUGHTERS WILL BE DIFFERENT.

WE HAVE TO ALLOW INDUSTRIES TO SAY WE HAVE AN OVERREPRESENTATION OF MEN OR ASIANS OR WHATEVER THE GROUP IS, WE CAN'T ELIMINATE THAT WE HAVE TO ALLOW THEM TO FIND A BALANCE THAT WORKS FOR THEM SO WE DON'T STIFLE ECONOMIC GROWTH AND JOB CREATION AND INNOVATION IN THE NAME OF DIVERSITY.

THERE IS A BALANCING ACT THERE.

>> BUT WE ARE NOT THERE YET.

WE HAVE A LOT OF WORK TO DO.

>> NOBODY SAYS HIRE UNQUALIFIED WOMEN TO MEET YOUR QUOTAS.

>> BUT THAT NETWORK IS IMPORTANT THE ABILITY FOR COMPANIES TO PARTNER WITH ORGANIZATIONS THAT CAN PROVIDE THAT ADDITIONAL SUPPORT FOR DIVERSITY RATHER THAN HAVING PRACTICES.

>> IN THE GREEN ROOM YOU SAID SOMETHING POWERFUL WE HIRE PEOPLE THAT LOOK LIKE US THAT ARE LIKE US.

SO I THINK THAT THAT IS PART OF THIS, TOO.

YOU HAVE TO HAVE SYSTEMIC PRACTICES IN PLACE.

>> THAT IS ABSOLUTELY PART OF THIS.

AND WHAT -- I JUST WENT IN PREPARATION FOR THIS DISCUSSION, I CALLED UP AUTOMATIC REVIEW ONE OF THE ON-LINE AUTOMOTIVE INDUSTRY REVIEW MAGAZINES, AND I LOOKED AT ALL THE TOP AUTOMOTIVE INDUSTRIES FOR INTERNATIONAL CAR NOT GM AND FORD BUT THE INTERNATIONAL AUTOMAKERS.

AND IT WAS SO FAR BEHIND IN TERMS OF HAVING WOMEN IN EXECUTIVE POSITIONS FROM WHERE IT WAS 10 OR 20 YEARS AGO.

IT SHOCKED ME.

AND I DO THINK THERE WAS THIS PUSH OF GO FOR DIVERSITY AND IT HAS RECEDED AND THERE NEEDS TO BE ANOTHER ONE.

IT WAS AMAZING TO ME WHAT I SAW.

BEHIND THE HEADLINES THE COMPLEX CONCEPT OF FORGIVENESS.

MOST PEOPLE ARE AMAZED WHEN A VICTIM FORGIVES A CRIMINAL WHO HAS HARMED THEM OR A LOVED ONE.

TAKE THE FAMILY MEMBERS OF THOSE KILLED IN THE SOUTH CAROLINA CHURCH SHOOTING.

WE SPOKE WITH A JOURNALIST WHO RESEARCHED THE FORGIVE ANDS AND THE IMPACT ON THE PERSON WHO FORGIVES.

>> FORGIVING IT DOES NOT MEAN CONDONING AN ACTION.

RIGHT.

IT DOESN'T MEAN OH, YEAH, HE WAS RIGHT WHEN HE DID THAT.

THE FAMILIES WHO FORGAVE IN CHARLESTON THEY WERE NOT ASKING THAT DYLAN ROOF BE FREED.

YOU CAN HAVE FORGIVENESS AND JUSTICE.

>> JOURNALIST MEGHAN FELDMAN BET 10 COURT.

HER INSPIRATION FOR STUDYING FORGIVENESS WAS SZIM.

>> HE FORGAVE THE MAN WHO KILLED HIS SON AND NOT ONLY DID HE FORGIVE HIM HE REACHED OUT TO THE FAMILY OF THIS MAN WHO HAD KILLED HIS SON AND BECAME VERY CLOSE FRIENDS AND THEY STARTED A NONVIOLENCE EDUCATION ORGANIZATION TOGETHER THAT DOES WORK IN AT RISK SCHOOLS TO PREVENT VIOLENCE.

>> FELDMAN SAYS ACE GRUDGE HOLDER SHE NEEDED TO YOU HAD HOW PEOPLE COULD ACTUALLY FORGIVE SO SHE STARTED RESEARCHING THE SCIENCE AND INTERVIEWING FAMILIES.

>> I TALKED WITH THE FAMILY OF RACHEL SCOTT IN COLORADO AND RACHEL WAS ONE OF THE FIRST VICTIMS OF THE COLUMBINE SHOOTING.

THEY AND OTHER PEOPLE IN THE BOOK AND THE CHARLESTON FAMILIES THEY FORGAVE.

AND WHAT IS INTERESTING IS THAT THEY TALKED ABOUT IT AS A SURVIVAL RESPONSE.

LIKE ON SOME LEVEL THEY KNEW THAT IF THEY DID NOT FORGIVE THEY WOULD REMAIN JUST MIRED IN THIS ANGER AND BITTERNESS AND AND NOT HAVE DECENT HEALTH OR GOOD LIFE.

>> CAN THE PROCESS OF FORGIVENESS BE APPLIED TO EVERYDAY SITUATIONS IN THERE ARE PLANS TO USE IT TO CHANGE THE CULTURE AT SCHOOLS WITH VIOLENCE PROBLEMS?

>> THE PRINCIPAL AT CITY SPRINGS SCHOOL IN BALTIMORE CITY, SHE ATTEMPTED THIS CLASS ABOUT RESTORE ACTIVE PRACTICES AND THEY STARTED USING THESE CIRCLES AND EVERYONE TAKES TURNS HOLDING A TALKING STICK AND SHARING BASICALLY HIS OR HER VERSION OF WHAT HAPPENED.

AND NOT ONLY THAT THEIR THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED AND THEIR IDEAS HOW TO RESOLVE IT.

AND IN FIVE YEARS THEY REDUCED SUSPENSIONS BETWEEN 78-80% AND THEY IRRADICATED FIGHTING.

>> THIS MODEL HAS SHOWN PROMISE FOR BRIDGING CULTURAL DIVIDES.

>> I HAD THE ON TO VISIT A SUMMER CAMP THAT BRINGS ISRAELI TEENS AND PALESTINIAN TEENS TOGETHER.

AND I HAD ONE ISRAELI YOUNG WOMAN SAY I CAME HERE READY TO SHOOT BACK AT ANY ARAB AND WHEN I STARTED TALKING WITH THE ARAB WOMEN I REALIZED THAT I HAD NO IDEA WHAT WAS HAPPENING ON THE OTHER SIDE.

>> SHE CLAIMS THE SCIENCE AROUND FORGIVENESS IS BUILDING.

FORGIVENESS IS AN INNATE AS REVENGE AND HOW ONE DEALS WITH IT IS DETERMINED BY INSTITUTIONS AND ONE'S ENVIRONMENT.

THE SCIENCE SAYS FORGIVENESS CAN HAVE PHYSICAL HEALTH BENEFITS FOR WHOMEVER PRACTICES IT.

>> THERE'S MULTIPLE STUDIES THAT SHOW THAT FORGIVENESS CAN PUT YOU LESS AT RISK AND IN SOME CASES ALLEVIATE DEPRESSION AND ANXIETY AND HEART HEALTH THERE'S STUDIES THAT SHOW CARDIAC PATIENTS WHO RECEIVED THERAPY THAT INCLUDES A FORGIVENESS COMPONENT AS OPPOSED TO NUTRITIONAL COUNSELING THEIR BLOOD FLOOD INCREASES TO THEIR HEART WHEREAS THE CONTROL GROUP DID NOT.

IN TERMS OF THE BRAIN, THE ACT OF CONSIDERING LIKE THINKING ABOUT WHETHER OR NOT SOMEONE SHOULD BE FORGIVEN, ACTIVATES THE PART OF THE BRAIN THAT IS CONCERNED WITH PROBLEM SOLVING AND EMPATHY AS OPPOSED TO THE FIGHT OR FLIGHT RESPONSE.

>> SCIENTISTS FOUND FORGIVENESS CAN BE LEARNED.

WHAT WOULD THE WORLD LOOK LIKE IF FORGIVENESS BECAME A MAJOR FACTOR IN SOLVING CONFLICT AROUND THE WORLD?

>> I WOULD LIKE PEOPLE TO LEARN MORE ABOUT THE RESTORE ACTIVE PRACTICES AND THE WAY WE CAN FOSTER FORGIVENESS IN OUR COMMUNITIES.

BECAUSE IT WOULD -- IF WE DID THAT, OUR WORLD WOULD BE RADICALLY DIFFERENT.

>> SO I THINK MOST THINKING PEOPLE REALIZE IT'S EASIER ON YOURSELF TO FORGIVE BUT BECAUSE OF THE STRESS BECAUSE OF THE ANXIETY AND YOU ARE NOT WASTING TIME THINKING ABOUT SOMEBODY WHO DID SOMETHING HORRIBLE TO YOU THAT CAN'T BE UNDONE.

BUT HOW DO YOU GET FROM THE NORMAL AND NATURAL FEELINGS OF HATE AGAINST SOMEBODY WHO RM HARMED YOU OR A LOVED ONE TO FORGIVING THEM?

>> I'VE BEEN HONEST ON THIS WONDERFUL SHOW THAT MY PASSION TO SEE MORE WOMEN IS DRIVEN BY MY OWN EXPERIENCE BEING WHITE TRAFFICKED AS A YOUNG WOMAN.

THE SEXUAL ABUSE I EXPERIENCED GROWING UP.

AND I WARN MY COLLEAGUES HERE AT THE TABLE THAT I PROBABLY CRY WHEN I SAW THIS WAS GOING TO BE MY QUESTION BECAUSE THE MANY DECADES LONG JOURNEY OF MY OWN HEALING IT'S PRIMARY HALLMARK HAS BEEN FORGIVENESS.

BECAUSE AND I THINK THERE IS A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN FORGIVENESS AND HANDING OUT AN OLIVE BRANCH.

AND HERE IS THE DIFFERENT IN MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE... WE HAVE TO HASH THROUGH EVERYTHING WE HAVE EXPERIENCED AND OWN IT AND EXPERIENCE IT AND ONLY THEN CAN WE TRULY FORGIVE.

BUT WHEN WE DO FORGIVE IT'S TRANSFORMATIVE AND I WOULD THAT BE WHO I AM TODAY UNLESS I HAD BEEN THROUGH THAT PROCESS MYSELF.

>> ALL RIGHT.

YOUR THOUGHTS?

>> I WAS THINKING ABOUT IT FROM MY SEAT IN WASHINGTON WHERE WE HAVE SO MUCH ANGER AND FIGHTING AND ONE THING WE TALK ABOUT IS THAT IT'S NOT WE ALL DON'T WANT THE SAME -- WE WANT EVERYONE TO HAVE EDUCATION AND HEALTHCARE AND THE FAIRNESS MAY DIFFER IF YOU CAN TRY TO YOU HAD SOMEONE ELSE'S PERCEPTION OF FAIRNESS OR GOOD OR EVIL IT CAN BE HELPFUL.

>> THAT IS IT FOR THIS EDITION.

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